How Can I be "Life Support" for Someone in Grief?
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Leader: Dee Bailey
November 19, 2007
to 9:30 pm
Eastern (90 minute teleclass) -- 7:00
Central, 6:00 Mountain, 5:00 Pacific
member of your Bible study group lost her sister to cancer; your son’s
friend died tragically in a car accident; your client’s wife had a
stroke. You’re wondering
how to be supportive during their time of grief.
read that one of the most critical aids in healing from loss is good
support, but wonder, “What can I do to help?”
“Isn’t that the role of our pastor and our grief group?”
Yes, of course it is, and it is also our opportunity to be present
to others’ suffering in a uniquely personal way.
Grief is often regarded as
something to get over, but it is actually the cathartic process that heals
us. When walking with others through grief we become part of their
ongoing life support system. By understanding the basics of grief and
learning a few practical strategies we can all find ways to support
another’s healing process.
Participants in this class
a new perspective on how everyone can be supportive|
the simple basics of grief and what to expect from a grieving person|
practical do’s and don’ts of care-giving|
valuable information and links to resources|
what to say and NOT to say|
concrete ways to support a grieving person/family during the holidays|
more confidence in their ability to help|
what past participants have said about this class!
Bailey, MA, CPCC, is a grief specialist and life coach who has been
working with adults in transition since the early 1980s.
Dee’s experience with grief education and support includes creating
programs for bereaved adults and children, group facilitation, one-on-on
support, speaking and training others.
During her 12 years
at Prince of Peace Lutheran Church in Burnsville, MN her ministries
included bereavement, singles, families experiencing divorce and lay
· Co-founded and facilitated a weekly grief group for 10 years
· Co-founded and coordinated Starting Over Single, a seminar for families
in divorce for 15 years
· Trained Stephen Ministers and Befrienders how to support those in grief
· Frequently speaks at grief groups and workshops on loss and grief
earned her BA in counseling psychology and MA in Human Development with a
focus on alternative approaches to learning and healing from loss.
She trained with the Coaches Training Institute in 1997 and is a Certified
Professional Co-Active Coach. In her private practice she has a unique
process of literally and figuratively walking her clients through grief.
Dee’s grief blog at http://hopefulcrossings.blogspot.com.
Abuse: How To Recognize
It -- And How To
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Leader: Jim Adams
Date: To be
offered again Spring 2007
Time: 7:00 pm
Eastern (one hour teleclass) --
6:00 Central, 5:00 Mountain, 4:00 Pacific
This class is a
to a pervasive problem many of us encounter every day.
We may see it in parishioners, family members, co-workers or our clergy.
The more we know about it, the better chance we have of responding to it
in a positive and helpful way.
This class is
for you if
|You want to
get a basic introduction to the issue of substance abuse|
non-professional (and want to look at this issue from a lay
perspective, without a lot of jargon)|
We'll look at
substance abuse as a disease, and why denial is often a key symptom for
those involved. We'll examine how it affects patterns of behavior,
and the way it impacts key areas of life, especially spiritual values,
relationships, and finances/possessions.
News is that treatment and recovery are at hand!
The trick is to know how to offer that help to the people we love.
We'll talk about that difficult issue ... and more.
James R. Adams is a member of Trinity
Episcopal Church, Covington, Kentucky. Jim is a
"semi-retired" trial lawyer who in his professional life
defended complex class actions involving mass disasters, securities fraud,
accounting malpractice and antitrust issues. He has been a
convention delegate, vestry-person, warden, chair of the building
committee and stewardship chair. He has served as a member
and chair of several charitable boards focused on substance abuse issues,
including the treatment and education of indigent alcoholics and suburban
teenager abusers, and the funding of abuse education. He has spoken
extensively on substance abuse issues to lawyers as part of their
continuing legal education requirements and teaches "Pretrial
Practice and the Art of Lawyering" at Northern Kentucky University's
Chase College of Law.
Jim is also a member of the Advisory
Council for Recovery Ministries
of the Episcopal Church.
Planning Your Final
and End-of-Life Decisions
Leader: Roger Robillard
To be offered Winter/Spring 2007
class will benefit anyone with an interest in how to plan ahead for the
final celebration of their life. It will also look at ways in which
we as care-givers -- people with aging parents, clergy, those who work in
the fields of nursing, hospice, social work or retirement -- can help others
make decisions about their funerals and other end-of-life issues.
ahead for your final celebration is:
Good stewardship: The Book of Common Prayer
recommends that all clergy should remind their members annually of the
prudence of prior planning of final arrangements. Many people
plan financially for their funeral by pre-paying their funeral
expenses. Why not also give thought to – and plan ahead for --
the emotional and personal aspects of your end-of-life celebration?|
|A gift we can
give to our loved ones: Those we leave behind will need
permission to grieve free of the burden of excessive decision-making
under stress. Having your affairs in order is a gift to those
who will grieve.|
We’ll increase our personal comfort with death and dying while we
learn how to guide others through the process of planning and
preparing for their death. We’ll break the taboo of “if you
talk about final preparation you must have given up on life” and
look at this preparation as part of our life as faithful believers in
the Resurrection. |
It’s not just being humorous to say that this class will help us put
the “fun” back into “funeral.” Our theology today
directs us to see this final event in the life of loved ones as a
celebration of their life and ours. Why not make the planning
for this an enjoyable time?|
The Rev. Roger Robillard is Vicar of Trinity Episcopal Church, Highland
Springs, Virginia. He has had 27 years of ordained ministry in
parishes in Montreal and the Diocese of Rhode Island, and now the Diocese
of Virginia. He has served on ecumenical committees and on the
Cursillo Secretariat in all three dioceses, and currently serves on the
Diocese of Virginia’s commission for congregational development.
Roger has presented
this material over the past two years in conferences on care-giving, and
has used Margerie Jenkins’ book You Only Die Once as a basis for